Yesterday was International Men’s Day, and while this is admittedly belated, I wanted you to know I do in fact think about men too, not just women’s issues. This Clarissa Pinkola Estés excerpt is one of my favorite pieces on the substance of a strong man. Enjoy!
Within the masculine psyche, there is a creature, an unwounded man, who believes in the good, who has no doubts about life, who is not only wise but who also is not afraid to die. Some would identify this as a warrior self. But it is not that. It is a spirit self, and a young spirit at that, one who regardless of being tormented, wounded, and exiled continues to love because it is in its own way self-healing, self-mending.
Women will testify to seeing this creature lurking in a man outside his awareness. This young spirit’s ability to bring the power of healing to bear on his own psyche is so awesome that it is astounding. His trust is not dependent on his lover not to hurt him. His is a trust that any wound that comes to him can be healed, a trust that new life follows old. A trust that there is a deeper meaning in all things, that seemingly petty events are not without meaning, that all things of one’s life–the ragged, the jagged, and the lilting and the soaring–all can be used as life’s energy.
(From Women Who Run With the Wolves, 162-163)